Several years ago, I moved to London for an extended stay.
An exciting opportunity and everything confused me.
The little details of everyday life overwhelmed me. Tasks that were normally easy felt difficult.
How to get groceries—without a car.
How to find American peanut butter.
How to navigate the Tube with three young children.
How to get a cell phone.
I had so much to learn.
Eventually, I got the hang of the Tube. I learned to love HobNobs. And I learned I hated Marmite, no matter how many times I tried it.
I remade my daily life. It was a grand adventure.
When I came back home, I had a fresh perspective on all the routines in my life that had been so familiar to me.
You see, everything that had been...
Entrepreneur culture is ripe with the message that you SHOULD hustle, slay, kill it, do all the things RIGHT NOW, or you will fail.
We know that if we try and do ALL the things for ALL the people, it is a recipe for BURN out.
Why would we think that work in the time of Coronavirus would be any different?
I know at first, for me, it felt different. My clients all needed additional meetings and support. Some of them were called to create new offers, and others just wanted the familiar touchstone of knowing we are in this #together.
I have worked to expand my mental and physical capacity over the past year. I COULD support all of my clients without straining my systems, or so I believed.
What I didn’t...
We are living in uncertain and extra-ordinary times. Everything that we took for granted a month, a week, a day ago—kids being in school, flying to a conference, going to visit a loved one, going on a plane to vacation—are all on hold, indefinitely.
It feels much like someone scrambled all of our puzzle pieces and then walked away.
There are so many questions and so many feelings!
How do we put the pieces back?
Do they need to go in the same spaces as before?
Were we trying to fit square pegs into round holes?
I’m happy. Am I even allowed to be happy?? (Yes, yes I am.)
The list could go on and on.
This time in the world reminds me of...
I've been thinking about cultural norms this week. My daughter, whose homeschooled, asked if we could read Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge, and the Teachings of Plants.
From just the title, you wouldn't think that it would have much to do with building a coaching business, but oh my, it does.
In Braiding Sweetgrass, she talks about the way western culture demands that we know something only from our scientific and linear mind.
What a limited way to move through the world, and yet it is what is ingrained in us from a young age.
Schools taught us to ignore our emotions, to only focus on what it takes to get an A in the class, to not ask too many questions, and certainly not to question the cultural norms.
Culture teaches us to solve our problems with our beautiful minds.
It teaches us from an early age that the only way to a gold star is through following the rules and being "smart."
We quickly learn to push down all the pesky emotions that get in the way of being logical and rational.
I mean we WANT all the gold stars Right?!
And yet, is that really where the real intelligence lies?
Um, hell no.
It is in our ability to lead with our hearts.
A brain in service to the heart is a much more powerful tool.
I remember when I attended the Nine Day School for The Work with Byron Katie, the terror that I felt as the control of the ego/mind slipped away.
I was terrified about what would happen to my business. I mean, I make my money through...
What would happen if you trusted yourself enough to develop your craft?
Sit with that for a moment. Ask yourself, how does that feel?
A little scary, a little exciting, a little fun? A little bit of all the things?
Yep, that's what I feel–all the things.
I know the key to success is as simple and as complicated as trusting yourself enough.
Trusting yourself enough to commit to showing up every damn day, even if the sun isn't shining.
No, ESPECIALLY when the sun is NOT shining, and it feels hard and sticky.
What will happen if you show up even then?
Allow for it all: the wonder, the trials, the challenges, the successes, and the emerging.
Trust yourself enough to develop your craft.
One step at a time.
In response to my recent post about my obsession with James Fraser, someone asked, "How do I know if I'm checking-out or if I'm resting?"
Such a good question!
The answer is you can tell the difference by how it feels in your body.
I know, I KNOW, feelings They can be so . . . uncomfortable.
I, too, avoided listening to mine for years. And yet, leaning into the discomfort of our feelings is what can unlock the transformation you're seeking.
Back to resting vs. checking out . . .
Get still focus on your action or inaction, as the case may be. Ask yourself, does it feel like slipping into a hot bath on a cold wintery evening, or does it feel like trying to walk through thick sticky mud?
If it feels...
Have you ever found yourself mindlessly binging on Netflix? Outlander, perhaps? Me neither, but I've read about it on the internet, or maybe, just maybe I found myself watching episode after episode of our favorite Scott, Jamie Fraser this past week.
At first blush, I could justify it and say I was resting by watching hours of Outlander. I deserve the time off.
But if I'm honest, that wasn't the case–and that's why we're here for real talk about building your business.
Nope. I wasn't resting. I was avoiding uncomfortable and vulnerable feelings around my business. I was checked-out.
You see, before I found myself admiring the benefits of a man in a kilt, I had been in a meeting with my Mastermind when my FULL on...
Are you ready to stop hustling and check-in with your business?
Creating an aligned business can be as simple as remembering to check-in with these four pillars to find the middle way to do business.
Checking-in falls into the simple, not easy category.
I encourage everyone to check-in with four main areas: purpose, passion, presence, and profit before they begin any new project and on a weekly, or at least monthly, basis to evaluate how current projects are serving them.
Purpose Is all about customer alignment and connection.
Are we connected and serving what the customer needs with this offer/action?
Passion is about founder alignment.
Is the offer/action in alignment with the founder's desire and inner wisdom?...
It can feel hard to do business right. It can often feel as if you have only two options: to hustle hard or check out.
But there is another way, a third choice: you can drop into presence and check-in with your business and your spirit.
Discover what is aligned for YOU.
Then check-in with your Soul Council to hear what is right for you, in this moment.