In response to my recent post about my obsession with James Fraser, someone asked, "How do I know if I'm checking-out or if I'm resting?"
Such a good question!
The answer is you can tell the difference by how it feels in your body.
I know, I KNOW, feelings 😯 They can be so . . . uncomfortable.
I, too, avoided listening to mine for years. And yet, leaning into the discomfort of our feelings is what can unlock the transformation you're seeking.
Back to resting vs. checking out . . .
Get still focus on your action or inaction, as the case may be. Ask yourself, does it feel like slipping into a hot bath on a cold wintery evening, or does it feel like trying to walk through thick sticky mud?
If it feels like the sweet relief of a hot bath, then chances are high you are resting. If it feels like thick mud . . . well, then you are probably checking-out.
And there is no shame in that, we all check-out from time to time when things get overwhelming, stressful, or scary.
It's what do we do when we recognize we've checked out that informs how successful we are at reaching our goals.
If you want to dive a little deeper into what to do if you are checking-out instead of checking-in join Sarah Papp, Master Life Coach, and I for a conversation about how to tell the difference between resting and checking-out and what to do if you're checking out.